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Although their actions are extreme, the perpetrators of punitive rape are expressing views—about the naturalness of heterosexuality, for example, and men’s authority over women—held by many people.
Most people who hold these beliefs do not rape lesbians.
At best, what lesbians do is foreplay that can never reach completion on its own.
Or, it is a turn-on for straight men and a staple of heterosexual pornography.
But the most dangerous implication of this myth is that the right man could show a lesbian what she really wants and turn her straight.
Many lesbians have had sex with men, either before they came out or while they were coming out.
Sex with a man did not change or prevent their lesbianism.
The distorting effects of these fantasies do not shape all of us with equivalent force.Sexual agency—the ability to make decisions about what you like to do sexually and then act upon them—has historically been denied to women.Many men (straight and gay) simply cannot imagine that real sex takes place without penetration with a penis.Consider the expression “losing your virginity.” This commonly means the first experience of heterosexual genital intercourse.This definition is so instilled in our culture as “sex” that many heterosexual teenagers do not consider oral sex and anal sex “real sex.” Even if they engage in these forms of sexual activity, they still understand themselves to be virgins.